Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Wedding Party Responsibilities: Who Does What?

When it comes to planning a wedding, time is very valuable because planning one of the biggest events of your life can be very stressful. Luckily, your trusty wedding party will be by your side to keep you sane and on track. Think of your wedding as a movie that you are attempting to make possible with the help of your actors- your wedding party. You and your groom are the producers who are essentially responsible for all of the behind-the scenes materials while your actors, the wedding party, is responsible for putting your plans into action.

Everyone has a part and is expected to meet the following expectations:

Bride and Groom:

-Set the date

-Agree on a budget for the big day

-Decide on theme, color scheme, and formality of the wedding

-Select the ceremony venue and officiant

-Select the reception venue, decor, and florist

-Select the wedding party, maid-of-honor and best man

-Purchase the rings that will be used

-Negotiate the guest list

-Register for a wedding registry

-Select wedding dress, tuxedo, shoes, and other accessories

-Select the caterer and food and beverage choices that will be served

-Select wedding cake, groom's cake and their flavors

-Decide on wedding favors

-Purchase gifts for the wedding party and each other

-Decide on a Dj, band, or other entertainment

-Choose your music for ceremony and reception

-Choose your photographer and videographer

-Transportation (limo, carriage, etc.) to and from wedding

-Dance lessons

-Name change documents

-Apply for marriage licence

-Plan the honeymoon and take care of any necessary arrangements

-Make sure alterations are made to clothing if necessary

-Purchase and send our save-the-date cards, wedding invitations, and thank You cards

-Purchase wedding programs

-Plan the rehearsal dinner

-Most important - Have an amazing time at your wedding!

Maid of Honor:

-Serves as the bride's personal assistant throughout the journey leading to the day of the wedding

-Assists the bride in selecting a wedding gown and bridesmaid dresses, shoes and accessories

-Plans and hosts the bridal shower

-Keep tracks of the gifts at the bridal shower

-Plans and hosts the bachelorette party

-Helps address and send the wedding invitations

-Purchases a wedding gift

-Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner

-Assists the bride in getting dressed the day of the wedding

-Holds the bride's bouquet during the wedding ceremony

-Carries the groom's ring

-Has the first dance with the best man

-Give a speech and a toast

-Assist in cleaning after the reception if needed

Best Man:

-Acts as a personal assistant throughout the entire process

-Helps the groom in selecting his attire for the wedding

-Plans and hosts the bachelor party

-Attends any pre-wedding events

-Assists groom and other groomsmen in getting dress on the actual day

-Carries the bride's wedding ring

-Gives the wedding officiant and vendors their payment envelope

-Has the first dance with the maid-of-honor

-Responsible for the first toast to the groom and his bride at the reception

-Assists with cleaning the place of reception as well as any good-byes

-Return the grooms tuxedo after the wedding


-Get together, respectively, to decide on what to wear.

-Purchase/pay necessary attire for the wedding

-Escort each other at the ceremony

-Guide guests to their seats

-Serve as hosts/hostesses throughout the wedding day if needed

-Help at the end of the reception with any cleaning that may be necessary

-Help the bride-to-be, groom-to-be, maid-of-honor and best man as required

-Return rented tuxedos after the wedding

As you have taken note, a wedding party is necessary to help your dream wedding come true. We suggest that you and your entourage get together to discuss plans. This will help eliminate any confusion and future disputes among each other. Also, one more thing, don't forget to purchase your bridesmaids and groomsmen a thank you gift for all their hard work. Happy planning!